I always enjoy reading threads on the forums on Mothering.com. You find a subset of parenting that has some quirks, to put it mildly. Here are some fun threads I found. I hope you enjoy them as much as I did.
Extended breastfeeding
There’s the extended breastfeeding crowd and by extended breastfeeding, in this case, it means way, way past infancy. (LO refers to Little One.)
What a wonderful post, I’m so glad to have found it! My LO is nearing 5 with no signs of interest in weaning. For the time being I’m ok with it (even kind of scientifically interested, like “left to his own preferences, WILL child actually ever to choose to wean?” lol)
5 years old? That seems like a long time to nurse. But she got topped by this:
I’m 44, have been nursing for 6+ years, still nursing. My son is almost 3 and my daughter is 6. I nurse both, although the son is still a pretty heavy nurser and the daughter is just cursory nurse before bed, like a comfort routine.
and this:
After 6.5 years, my child gradually slowed down to a few sessions a week, then month, then stopped eventually.
Unschooling
Here’s an unschooling thread that’s a little concerning. Unschooling like homeschooling, but without any structure. Would you be concerned about this child? I have to admit that I’m a little worried.
We’ve unschooled, more or less, for about five years and none of my kids are confident writers. The younger two are probably on par with their age mates, but the oldest (12) – I don’t even think he knows what a sentence is, or how to write one. When going to use caps, punctuation – nada. He is an avid reader of manga and gaming manuals. And don’t get me started on his handwriting – it probably compares with that of a second grader.
Unassisted Childbirth
Unassisted childbirth (UC) is birth at home, without any assistance from a midwife or other medical professional.
I am preparing for my second UC (baby is due Friday) and I have some last minute things to sort out. I was wondering what anyone would do in a situation where a baby swallows or breathes in meconium water. Also, what is the best way to cut an umbilical cord? Do you have to clamp both sides? And what would be some warning signs for needing to go to a hospital?
See, when you have a midwife or go to the hospital, they have all of this information. Also, if the baby breathes in meconium, you need to get that baby to a hospital, stat.
So if DH agrees to a UC, if I tear, how do we deal with that? Does DH have to learn to stitch it up if it’s too big?
The problem here is that amateurs should not be stitching. A midwife could totally handle this situation. So could a doctor.
Vaccines
Vaccines are always a popular topic on Mothering, which has a strong anti-vaccine contingent. During a discussion of how doctors like to manipulate people into vaccinating, someone posted this:
Scare tactics, bullying, and fearmongering come to mind…..the dr. will intimidate the parent, laying out the worst scene possible for the parent to imagine, and BAM!, the scare tactic worked and the parent agreed to vax. What other propaganda have you seen used to coerce parents?
I’m tempted to answer “statistics.” Here’s one of the replies she received:
When I declined hep B at birth the pediatrician told me this awful story about a 2 yr old getting hep B from a needle he found playing in his front yard……….We never went back to that doc.
Way to stay strong there, lady.
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Bookmarking this, so when I'm having a day where I feel dumb, I'll feel better about myself.
I barely scratched the surface.
Oh good lord. I may have found my activity for the day.
I have fallen into that hole more than once. It can take up hours, easily.
Rubs hands together with glee.
You need to make this a series.
WHAT'S WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE????
Delusions of intelligence. I wish they'd take a visit to a few old graveyards, see Mr. Smith's grave, and alongside the graves of his three (sequential) Mrs. Smiths , the majority of whom died in childbed.
That poor 12 yo. Never even given a chance.
The illiterate 12-year old really bothers me. I'm sure he's innumerate, too. Just who exactly do these cretin parents think is going to employ him? He'll never even pass his driver's license test.
You wait and see, that unschooled 12 year old will rock everyone at RISD.
Deliberately raising a child to age 12 while being utterly illiterate is, or at least ought to be, akin to child abuse. That child's life prospects have been severely limited.
These people are fucked.
"I did not go down the unschooling route by plan, it just I was working abroad at the time my daughter should be starting school. To date I have not done any type of teaching, or whatever you wish to call it and at seven she still can not read for example. She has shown no interest in wanting to and I am fine for her not to."
God this is so maddening.
That is just INSANE! I almost feel like they're just kidding, baiting the trolls. Can I tell you how big of a failure I felt like when my son couldn't read by age THREE? Gah, I want to go punch a wall now.
How is that legal?
I've got to say, that even homeschooling needs some regs. I used to work in public assistance and we would ask about jobs and school for the family. One family was "homeschooling" their kids. Neither parent had made it past 8th grade themselves. I actually called the Dept. of Public Instruction and it was just fine with them. No worries. God, those kids were so screwed. Much like this 12 year old, and the parents just blithely live their lives. Sad.
I don't understand how, if schools have to hit certain milestones with standardized tests, homeschoolers do not as well.
Most homeschoolers use a curriculum. It's only the radical unschoolers that don't. The specialist of special snowflakes.
This makes me want to go to those sites and create a fake identity and talk about my 20 year old who's still breastfeeding and how I refuse to teach my kids reading and writing because they'll learn when their bodies tell them it's time to learn and how I make my own natural vaccines at home using decaying orange rinds and royal jelly.
I think you'll find the user name "Mayim Bialik" is already taken.
Nice. I bet January Jones is taken too (she's a placenta eater)
I could get so, so many columns out of this website. It's full of the crazy.
I've got to say that my absolute favorite is when you pick up something on the web and write about it, and then the crazy person you quote follows you back here and starts going ballistic in the comments. Like Ms. Mamadouhla. What can we do to bring the wrath of the unschoolers upon this place? Or the unassisted birthers?
Someone would probably just have to alert them in the forum to the article.
Those are my favorite posts as well. It's always a good time when someone goes all "arglebargle" in the comments.
"Hi everyone. I'm about to give birth in…oh probably 45 minutes or so. Can anybody tell me what we should do? Thanks!"
Every single one of those quotes made my blood pressure rise. You were so strong to brave those murky, murky waters. :)
I love me some crazy.
I hate the acronym DH "dear husband." It seems so cloying. Something about it bugs me.
what acronym would you use for faster reference?
OH – Other Half. Anybody can use it to refer to any second care-giver, and it implies both have an equal responsibility.
nice. i might just adopt that. what are your feelings about SO- significant other?
SO is fine too; it just has the downside of being a more commonly used word on its own.
"Oh, so my SO was late picking up the kid."
"Oh, so my OH was late picking up the kid."
Either/or!
What is OH?
Never mind – I read down further – Every time I see OH, all I can think is Ohio
Hm. Okay, so maybe OH doesn't work.
the first time i saw DH, i really wasn't thinking dear.. i thought it was another 4 letter d word and i was like "wow, that's harsh.." OH works better. lol